SPECIAL: 12 Lessons in 12 Months!

Hey there!

So, the meaning of this post was to have it out before the end of 2018. But as you can see I am horribly late!

Jessie Jing (www.thedisoriental.com) included me in this 12in12 tag and I need to apologize to her for getting this out so late. But she knows why I’ve been so late…with everything lately. Haha! You can read her 12in12 post here.


I love doing these types of fun tags because it gives me a chance to mix things up a bit on my blog. When people nominate me or tag me into these types of things, I get really excited and I feel honored that they thought of me. All of you are special to me and I appreciate all of you.

So, let’s just jump into it! Like Jessie, I wrote it backwards because it was easier for me to remember everything.


Keep moving forward just not backwards. It doesn’t matter if you take two steps forward and one step back. What matters is that you are in general moving forward. If you take one step forward and two steps back, then you need to recalculate your method because you are in general moving backwards.


It’s okay to not be okay. It’s so hard nowadays to have time to deal with your own emotions. Everyone expects you to do this, that, and everything while somehow maintaining your mental health with a smile. That is just not possible all of the time. It is okay to not carry a smile every now and then. It’s not a crime nor is it goin to hurt anyone else if you allow yourself to deal with your feelings. Cry if you need to. Don’t carry that fake smile if you don’t want to. Say no to a party where everyone wants you to attend. Give yourself that time to not be okay.


Things are forever changing and we need to learn to adapt. I love the change of season, especially autumn because of the smell. But it makes me think about how things change whether we like it or not. With seasons, we adapt by wearing the appropriate clothing and drinking warmer drinks. But in our own lives, do we adapt how we should to things changing? We can’t control everything and things change. It’s so hard for us to adapt to the change but we need to learn to just let go. It’s easier said than done but letting go of the old and saying hello to the new is healthier. Embrace change.


There are always things that will hold you back and it’s your job to pull out of that grip.


There will never be enough time. In this day, there are so many demands with work, family, friends, household duties, me time, etc. There will never been enough time to get everything done. You need to be okay with letting things be. It’s okay if the clothes are not ironed. It’s okay if the dishes are still in the sink. It’s okay if you don’t go to this one club meeting. Nothing will happen to those clothes, dishes, and the club will still go on without you. Pick and choose what is the most important things to deal with at this moment. Don’t try to tackle everything and accomplish everything because day after day eventually you will burn out.


Enjoy the little things while you can. With the distractions of cell phones and tablets, it is really difficult to lift your head and look at what is going on around you. Focus on the birds taking a bath in a puddle or the leaves rolling across the grass. Focus on the kids laughing and playing around or the sound of the pitter patter on the floor from the kids or animals. Disconnect from the electronics and pay attention to the smaller, simpler things.


Accepting help is not defeat. It’s okay if I can’t do something by yourself. Don’t beat yourself up trying to do something that you think you can do but is too hard. By accepting help, this task that you are trying to deal with will not be so difficult. Ask for it, if no one offerred it. This does not mean that you are a failure. This means that you are smart because you know your limit.


Live life with a purpose. Don’t go through life just going through the motions. Give yourself purpose. It can be being a great mom, dancer, counselor, friend, mentor, dog walker, whatever. Be the best that you can be at whatever it is. When you have purpose, you have meaning. You are important.


Age is just a number. I am going to be 36 (OMG!) this year but I feel 25. My mind says, “Hey, slow down. You’re almost 40.” But my body and heart says the opposite and that is what I follow. I often need to ask hunkie how old I am because I can’t remember. It’s not something that I focus on. Your age is only a number. It doesn’t tell you how you should act or feel. Live life by how you feel not by what your age says you should.


Sometimes you have to have rain to have flowers. In the spring, it rains… ALOT. It sucks. It’s wet. It’s chilly. It’s muddy. But after that short period comes beautiful greens and flowers. The bees are busy collecting pollen. All animals are busy getting ready for new babies. There is new life after a period of miserable rain. This also goes for our own life. Sometimes you have to go through crap to have a beautiful period. And just like year to year, the beautiful period doesn’t last forever but it always comes back.


Your loved one should be shown and appreciated daily, not just on Valentine’s Day. Of course I like Valentine’s Day because of the gifts or special treatment. But really, Valentine’s Day should be spread out throughout the year. You should be appreciating your loved one with little silly things all the time. Leave a love note, make their coffee, make a special dinner with candles, rub their feet, etc. Sometimes it’s easy to forget to take care of what means the most to you. But like a treasure, if you don’t dust it, eventually it looks old and not pretty. Same goes for your loved one; if you don’t show your appreciation every now and then, eventually the relationship loses its luster.


Forgive and forget. I hear all of the time, “I’ll forgive but never forget.” That always leaves me wondering if they truly forgave if they didn’t forget. Yes, you don’t want to be used constantly or whatever. But it is good to forget sometimes because if you don’t how can you truly move forward from a situation?

My thought over the whole year was that it was a very transitional year for me. I learned alot and it was very difficult but I feel stronger and more aware because of it.

I’m supposed to tag people but… because it’s so late I’m not sure if I should. I think I’ll tag a few and if they want to participatie, cool! If not, I totally get it. 🙂




4 thoughts on “SPECIAL: 12 Lessons in 12 Months!”

  1. I really admire the fact that you remember what happened each month last year because I personally have no idea LOL
    Gotta be honest, my MH in 2018 was probably the worst it’d ever been, so there was a lot of sitting around, looking out the window and asking myself the most existential questions (spoiler alerts: no answers were found).
    Once again, thank you for tagging me. I enjoyed reading yours and I’m glad we’ve “met” cause you’re my kinda gal!
    Love xx

    Kate | https://katedaysaweek.be

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    1. It was not easy remembering! I had to remember what I was going through that month. It took for…. ev…. errrr. 😂 I completely get it when you were sitting around and thinking of nothing basically. I had that this past year too. I barely had energy to lay on the couch. 🙄
      Anyways! I’m super happy that we found each other in the vast cyber world! You have touched me and I hope we can meet in person sometime!!

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